Filters gave us the option of ignoring color (or fetishizing it). It gave us the option to equate race to kink - as if a black man’s genitals or skin color were somehow similar to a desire to be tied up. We should not have these options because these options are unethical. Our experiences must exist uncomfortably if our community is to make progress - I need to be able to hold my queer identity in conjunction with my race and understand that I still benefit culturally and politically from my whiteness, even while homophobia exists.